Reading about swimming isn't swimming.

You have the workbooks, and vocabulary and know the theory. But when the conflict actually starts... do you still freeze?

The Relational Skills for Liberation Workshop is for you.

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We are drowning in "therapy speak."

I know you can explain "attachment theory" perfectly to your therapist or best friend.

But the moment the conflict actually starts, the theory goes out the window and survival takes over.

In real life, it looks like…

The Over-Explanation: You draft a six-paragraph text message just to say "no," because the guilt feels so heavy.

The Shutdown: You go silent for three days, not to be mean, but because you literally don't know how to say "I'm overwhelmed."

The Performance: You smile and act like the "good person" or the "gentle parent" on the outside, while you are secretly seething on the inside.

Whether you were raised inside collectivistic expectations that demanded self-abandonment,

OR

shaped by hyper-individualism where you learned to protect yourself at the cost of connection…

the result is the same: you want deep, honest, durable relationships and you don’t always have the skills to build them.

The workshop is a practice lab

This is not a webinar where I talk at you for three hours. I’ve designed it to be a practice space. Think of it as a gym for your relational muscles. You’ll move from "knowing the concept" to "having the script."

You’ll leave with the specific words to say when you want to run or shutdown.

What we’ll practice:

1. Love-Centered Boundaries (That Don't Isolate You)

  • The Shift: Stop using boundaries as walls to keep people out. Learn to set boundaries that act as a bridge back to connection.

2. Bold Authenticity (Without the Performance)

  • The Shift: Stop "performing care" or "performing gentle parenting" while secretly seething. Learn to stop code-switching in your own living room.

3. Repair (The "Hard" Conversations)

  • The Shift: Rupture is inevitable. The skill is repair. Learn the exact 3-step script to own your harm and clear the air, without groveling.

Everything is taught through a trauma-centered, neurodiversity and mental illness aware lens. There are real reasons we can’t always show up the way we hope to; we’ll name those, offer accommodations, and practice strategies that honor capacity.

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  • "I realized the relationships built on my silence were never real to begin with. This workshop taught me how to come back to myself and to others with courage." —Past participant

  • "I learned that rupture doesn’t have to mean goodbye. I’m so grateful for the clarity and compassion Christabel brings to this work." —Past participant

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“The small group discussions showed how different cultures shape us in similar ways—and how healing together made me feel seen and less alone.” —Nishtha (she/her)

A little bit about me…

I don't teach this because I read a textbook. I teach it because I had to learn it to survive.

I grew up as a third-generation Jehovah’s Witness in Ghana and Nigeria. I knew how to perform care. I knew how to serve. I did not know how to connect.

When I came out at 28, I lost my entire community.

I was 30 years old when I married my ex-wife. We had 6 bridesmaids. and all of them were from her side.

I know the ache of having no relational skills and what it’s like to try to make friends but have your CPTSD symptoms get in the way.

I built this framework so I wouldn't die lonely. And it worked.

Today, I have the deep, messy, honest village I was starving for. Now, I share the blueprint so you don't have to build yours alone.

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Who this workshop is for…

  • Black folks and people of the Global South who want to heal together without diluting our truth to fit Western norms.

  • Queer and trans people who are building chosen family and learning what love looks like beyond survival.

  • People who happen to be white but are actively decentering whiteness, practicing accountability, and learning to show up relationally without fragility.

  • Therapists, caregivers, and community workers who want to teach, lead, and love from a decolonial lens.

  • Anyone committed to an interdependent future, where care is mutual, not transactional.

Who this is not for

  • This is not the space for people who are committed to whiteness, or domination in any of its forms.

  • People intent on upholding patriarchy

  • If you don’t believe that there are real reasons why we can’t always show up the way we hope to, you’re ableist and this is not the space for you.

  • If your priority is protecting power, not sharing it, this won’t serve you.

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What’s included in the workshop?

Next workshop date TBD

Doors Open January 5th. Join the waitlist to get the 20% Off Code sent to your inbox 24 hours early.

A Live 3-Hour Practice Lab: Not a lecture. We use this time for real-time scripts and scenarios.

Breakout Rooms: A safer container to practice saying the words out loud (so you don't freeze when it counts).

14-Day Replay Access: Includes chat transcripts (where the magic happens) and catch the scripts you missed.

Global Community: Connect with people from all over the world who are actively decentering systems of oppression and working to build dependable, trust worthy relationships.

BONUS: The Full Workbook Library: You get the Relational Skills Workbook AND the Repair Playbook (a $78 value) to keep forever.

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Relational skills are the missing link to true interdependence.

  • “This space made me feel seen and less alone. I’ve never been in a workshop that felt so grounded and real.” — Anonymous

  • “I left with the sense that I could actually do this—show up in my relationships with more honesty and less fear.” — April 2025 Workshop Participant

  • "The content was exceptional, clear, concise, free of jargon, practical, and real. The space felt open, accepting, and gentle. I felt safe enough to show up fully." —Rae

  • "I am not alone. It was so good to hear from others who experienced the same rejection and hurt from friendships. Christabel, you are so inspiring, hearing you say out loud things I’ve kept inside for years made me feel seen and hopeful." —Tracy (she/her)

  • “I wish I had "The 3 R’s of repair helped me as a neurodivergent person remember that relationships are cyclical, and it’s okay to go through ebbs and flows. The breakout rooms made me feel connected instead of alone." —Sharon (she/her)

Not ready for the workshop?

Prefer to go at your own pace? If the live date doesn't work for you, grab the Relational Skills Workbook.

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Community Sponsorship & Access.

We practice interdependence here.

Need support? If exchange rates or systemic inequity make the ticket inaccessible, please apply for a sponsored seat. (Pay-what-you-can available). Apply for a seat

Have overflow? If you are in a position to give, you can fund a seat for a Black, brown, or queer community member. Sponsor a seat

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Ready to practice?

The workshop is on January 17.

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FAQs

  • Yes. If you can bring curiosity and care, you’re ready.

  • Yes, 14 days, with chat transcript.

  • You choose your level of participation. We offer accommodations and alternative ways to practice.

  • Welcome, if you’re actively decentering whiteness and practicing accountability. Sit with the questions you have until the FAQ sessions. During the FAQ session and breakout rooms, look around to see who hasn’t participated yet, and make room for them to. Pay attention to how your body feels; this is the work.