You are here because the "rules" you were taught about love aren't working anymore. I know that terrain.
I’m Christabel Mintah-Galloway. I am a writer, a nurse, and a relational skills teacher. But before all of that, I was someone who had to burn my life down to save it.
I help people who feel "too much," "too sensitive," or "too independent" build relationships that can actually hold them.
I HAD TO BUILD A NEW MAP FROM SCRATCH. MAYBE YOU DO TOO.
I grew up as a queer African immigrant in a high-control religious community (Jehovah’s Witnesses). My early life was defined by a single rule: Compliance equals Safety.
When I left the church at 28, I didn't just lose a belief system. I lost everyone. My family, my friends, and my entire social ecosystem vanished.
You might know that feeling. You may not have grown up in a high-control religion, but you might have grown up in a home where saying "no" meant being frozen out. You might know the grief of outgrowing the people who were supposed to love you unconditionally.
I found myself with no map. I had to learn how to build trust, set boundaries, and repair ruptures without the rigid "scripts" I had been handed since birth.
The tools I teach today: The Repair Manual, The Interdependence Spiral, are not theoretical. They are the survival kit I built to navigate the wilderness you are walking through right now.
WHEN YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM IS FLOODED, YOU DON'T NEED THEORY. YOU NEED A PROTOCOL.
My approach to relationships is grounded in 13 years of nursing.
In the hospital, we don't guess. We don't use abstract metaphors. We use protocols because in an emergency, clarity saves lives.
Your relationships have emergencies too. When you are in the middle of a fight, your body goes into survival mode. Your logic offline. You cannot "theory" your way out of that moment.
I bring that same clinical precision to relational healing.
Instead of telling you to "communicate better," I give you the exact script for when you are frozen.
Instead of telling you to "hold space," I give you the step-by-step checklist to de-escalate a conflict.
I teach this way because I know that when you are triggered, you need something solid to hold onto.
ISOLATION IS THE TRAP. CONNECTION IS THE REMEDY.
We live in a world that thrives on our isolation. We are taught to be hyper-independent, to cut people off at the first sign of trouble, and to view our needs as weaknesses.
I refuse to accept that. I believe that learning to repair a rupture is a radical act. I believe that needing other people is not a symptom of being broken, it is the definition of being human.
I built this work for the cycle-breakers. For the ones who are the "therapists" of their friend groups. For the ones who are tired of being the "strong one" and are ready to be the held one.
You are not the only one trying to figure this out.
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WHERE DO WE START?
Relational skills cannot be learned in isolation.
The Workbook gives you the map. The Workshop gives you the practice ground.
A few times a year, I open a live, interactive container for folks who want to move from "intellectualizing" their patterns to embodying new ones in real-time.
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