The Relational Repair Playbook
Tools, scripts, and community wisdom for repairing ruptures without abandoning accountability
Learn the skills to foster deep, meaningful relationships.
If you’ve ever felt like meaningful relationships are just out of reach, whether you’ve been conditioned by an individualistic society or a collectivistic culture that demands self-sacrifice, you’re not alone.
Relational skills are the missing link to true interdependence.
Repair is hard for so many of us because we were not taught to even think about it much less how to actually do it.
And when you look on the internet, much of what you’ll see is scripts that label the other person. Which honestly, I think is such a waste of time.
What I do think is a better use of time is focusing on our side of the lane, our 1% (even when it’s 99% their fault).
Because it’s that focus that’ll help us build the discernment to say goodbye to relationships that have long stopped being reciprocal, and to deepen the trust, vulnerability, and loving-kindness in the ones that still nourish you.
That’s what the Relational Repair Playbook is about.
What you’ll get:
✔ A 70-page PDF you can use right away
✔ Plain-language scripts for both sides of the rupture
✔ The 3R’s repair framework + check-backs
✔ Micro-scripts for texts, letters, and live talks
✔ Boundary vs. rule guide (with “path back” language)
✔ Post-episode repair + ongoing maintenance rituals
✔ Worksheets: your repair plan & commitments
✔ Booklist + further resources
Boundaries aren’t enough - Repair isn’t enough.
The real work is learning how to build interdependence, connection that honors both your autonomy and your need for community.
Who it’s for (and not for)
This is for you if…
ND/MI is in the room and you want repair without shame.
You value accountability, pacing, and dignity.
You like concrete language you can copy/paste.
It’s not for you if…
You want a clinical or legal manual.
You’re looking to punish, test, or “win.”
