You cannot build a relationship you don’t have a blueprint for.

The Relational Skills for Liberation Workbook is the 50-page roadmap to unearthing your patterns, identifying your needs, and learning the 4 pillars of healthy connection.

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We aren’t suffering from a lack of information. We are suffering from a lack of blueprints.

You can read every book on boundaries, but if:

  • you were sent to your bedroom every time you disagreed with your parents, your body learned that "No" = "Exile."

  • the only conflict you saw growing up was slammed doors or weeks of icy silence, of course you freeze when a partner raises their voice.

  • "repair" in your home meant pretending nothing happened the next morning, of course you don't know how to apologize without shame.

You end up swallowing your truth to keep the peace

you repeat your survival patterns, mistaking them for connection.

or exploding with rage when you can't take it anymore

Relationships don’t fall apart because people are "toxic." They fall apart because we are trying to build adult intimacy using survival blueprints.

You might fall into one of these two camps:

(Boundaries): The "Cut-Off" Trap.

You think "boundaries" mean blocking their number or icing them out. But that doesn't build safety; it just builds a fortress where no one can reach you.

OR

(Rage/Silence): The "Silent Treatment."

You freeze or shut down during conflict because you never saw a fight end in repair, only in slammed doors or weeks of silence.

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You are surrounded by people, but you have no one to call.

We live in a hyper-connected world, yet most of us are deeply lonely.

You have friends to grab brunch with, but do you have friends you can let go and completely collapse with? You have a partner, but do you feel safe enough to say "I'm hurt" without starting a war?

This is the paradox: You are doing all the "right" things, therapy, reading the books, trying to be "good", but you still feel isolated.

That isn’t your fault. You are trying to build a village with tools designed for a bunker.

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Hey there!

I’m Christabel Mintah-Galloway, a nurse of 13 years, a writer, and the creator of Relational Skills for Liberation.

I didn't build this workbook out of theory. I built it because the "old map" stopped working. As a queer African immigrant leaving a high-control religious environment, I lived through rupture after rupture.

I had to start over at 28, learning how to build relationships from scratch without the safety net of the community I lost.

This workbook is the body of work that came out of those years of unlearning. It is the guide I wish I had when I was trying to figure out how to be boldly authentic without losing everyone I loved.

Now at 40, I know this for sure: Relational skills are not just self-help. They are liberation work.

I didn't need more theory. I needed a way to be dependable to my people without abandoning myself.

IT’S TIME TO UPGRADE YOUR BLUEPRINT.

The Relational Skills for Liberation Workbook isn't just a place to vent your feelings. It is a guided excavation designed to help you map the survival patterns you are carrying so you can finally put them down.

  • From "Walls" → Love-Centered Boundaries: Move from "cutting people off" to setting boundaries that protect your peace without ending the connection.

  • From "Panic" → Repair: Stop viewing conflict as a threat. Learn to see rupture as a portal to deeper intimacy.

  • From "Performance" → Bold Authenticity: Stop hiding parts of yourself to "keep the peace." Learn to show up as your full self, even when it feels risky.

  • From "Isolation" → Interdependence: Unlearn the hyper-independence that keeps you lonely. Learn the skills to ask for help, let yourself be held, and lean on others without collapsing.

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SOLD OVER 3,700 COPIES SINCE IT’S RELEASE IN APRIL OF 2025

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Over a 10 month period, our community on instagram has grown to over 120,000 people Why?

Because people are tired of shallow advice. They are tired of Instagram quotes that tell us to "cut people off" but don't teach us how to stay. “Therapy speak” permeates our most intimate relationships with no deepening of the bonds that holds us close and dear to each other.

The frameworks I teach, Repair, Love-Centered Boundaries, and Bold Authenticity, resonate with millions of people because they acknowledge the nuance of being human.

I created this workbook so you could take this work off the screen and into your actual life.

This isn't just a workbook. It’s a response to a collective hunger.

  • "Oh Christabel, this is beautiful. This is SOOOO good, I'm in awe. I can't wait to have you facilitate part of my healing through this. I know this isn't just words...you live and have lived this. I feel so good placing my trust in the words, prompts, and activities you've placed within these pages. Talk about AUTHENTIC!"

  • "I LOVE the colors. I especially like the introduction of frameworks, like the 3 Rs of Repair."

  • “Your work is amazing and SO NEEDED in our society. I have been teaching relational skills for over 10 years, and I’ve never ever encountered someone like you. Thank you for doing this work.”

  • "The workbook is clear, direct, applicable, and impactful. I'm very grateful for it." - anonymous.

  • "I initially bought your workbook and then I skimmed it quickly and my god you need more money." - anonymous.

  • "This is a workbook I will come back to it offers practice solutions that I feel comfortable implementing in my daily life as my goal is to build more relationships. The part about what makes relationships thrive and how ro ask for what you need hit me because it's an aspect of relationships where I struggle asking for what I need without feeling guilt. I enjoyed that you included more resources at the end encouraging me to do more work on my own." - anonymous.

  • "This workbook has been a beautiful way to reflect on the ways I've already been improving my relationships, and it gently shines a light on the skills I still have to grow into. I've recommended it to some friends and clients as well." - anonymous

Here’s what’s inside:

A page from a growth tracker workbook titled 'Relational Growth Tracker,' with a chart for rating relational skills from 1 to 5, including skills like communicating needs clearly, setting boundaries without guilt, taking accountability in conflicts, and practicing reciprocity. The page also has a reflection section asking about areas to strengthen and ways to work on them, with instructions to revisit in 30 days.

The Excavation: 50 pages of guided prompts to help you identify the Relational Patterns you are carrying and name the parts of yourself you’ve suppressed to "fit in."

1.

Page from a book or presentation slide titled 'Why Relational Skills Matter for Liberation,' discussing interdependence as a living ecosystem, with text about roles, cycles, and a diagram illustrating a cycle of care, rest, support, and acknowledgment.

The Frameworks: Deep dives into your Relational Blueprint and the Interdependence Spiral, learning the difference between leaning on others and losing yourself.

2.

The Practice Somatic check-ins and role-play activities to help you move from "intellectualizing" your feelings to actually embodying them.

3.

A worksheet page titled "Building the Foundations of Healthy Relationships" with exercise instructions for asking for needs without guilt, including statements on unmet relationship needs, direct asking, self-worth, and relational security.

A curated reading list featuring over 20 books to take this work deeper

4.

WHO THIS IS FOR

  • Survivors of High-Control Environments: Folks who were raised to believe that "love" means total obedience and "boundaries" mean rebellion.

  • Queer & Trans Folks: Navigating relational trauma in a world that wasn't built for our love stories.

  • The "Reliable" Ones: The eldest daughters and community pillars who are holding everyone else up but secretly feel isolated in the crowd.

  • Neurodivergent & Diasporic Minds: People who need relationship tools that honor their sensory needs and cultural context, not just "standard" advice.

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The Workbook handles your internal world. The Repair Manual handles the conversation.

You can do all the internal healing in the world, but eventually, you have to open your mouth and speak to another human being. That is where most of us freeze.

The Repair Manual (formerly the Playbook) is your 70-page desk reference for the messy reality of conflict. It gives you the exact scripts, protocols, and "9 Ingredients of an Apology" so you never have to guess what to say when things break.

YOU HAVE THE MAP. NOW YOU NEED THE TOOLS.

Protocols, Not Just Theory: Step-by-step de-escalation plans for when you are flooded, frozen, or ready to fight.

Pacing & Boundaries: How to press "pause" on a conflict without abandoning the relationship (essential for Neurodivergent processing).

Word-for-Word Scripts:

Exact language for both the person causing harm and the person receiving harm.

Rituals for Maintenance:

Community-tested check-ins to make sure the repair actually sticks.

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The Repair Manual is only available in the toolkit.

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